For many of us it is a very feared moment. Many times, when we see a neighbor, a roommate or a stranger in any elevator we have slowed down to wait for the next one, for not spending several seconds or minutes without knowing what to do or what to say inside the elevator.
Do not worry. It happens to many people. The uncomfortable moment of being in an elevator and encountering someone else, for some people, is overwhelming. We prefer to be alone, to look in the mirror, to be watching our mobile in peace or even to see if we have put each piece of clothing in our body. In the technological era in which we live, today it is easier for us to talk on the phone than face to face.
What conversations can we have in the elevator, which ones are appropriate and which ones should we avoid in this short trip? Below, we offer some ideas that may be indicative to overcome this compromising moment.
Conversations to liven up our trip in the elevator
I've never seen him around here, just arrived?
If we meet in the elevator with a new neighbor or with a co-worker who has just arrived at our company, we can always bring up the issue, very effective, of asking him about his condition again. Surely the other person loves to talk, to get rid of the nerves of being the last one that has arrived and to start a conversation with someone in the company. In addition, it can lead to much more interesting conversations, establishing a good friendship.
Talk about what we eat, the food ...
It is one of the most common stamps for thousands of daily users of elevators. Arriving home, calling the elevator and having our neighbor arrive with bags full of food. Many people dare to ask about what they eat and what they think about a certain product.
We can always talk about our favorite supermarkets: "I like the corner because of its value for money, although the one next door is not bad either" to which the neighbor who comes from the purchase will tell us where he buys him his products and what are his favorites. The debate about the tastes or needs can go further, it is worthwhile to take out issues such as "foods with a lot of fat or sugar, we raise cholesterol or blood glucose." Little by little, you have to try to reduce them and take care of yourself, then we will have to take various products off of our meals ... "
The helpful topic of talking about the weather
And is not for less. When we go up to our house we do it from the street and when we go down from the house to the street we are preparing to suffer or enjoy the outside temperature. Crossing with a neighbor or partner, talking about time and exchanging impressions is a great option. On the one hand, it helps us prepare if the outside temperature is not the most pleasant and, on the other hand, we exchange a conversation topic that almost always works.
For example: "Temperatures have risen, after a week of rain, it's the best news, so we can go for a walk or go more quietly down the street." Or the manido "how cold it is ... how crazy is the weather, eh". "An unbearable heat, this city is one of extremes ... we went from cold to heat in a short time, a madness".
Talk about the problems of the neighborhood community
We can match the president of the community in the elevator and ask him everything we need to know or transfer any complaints. To be interested in the common problems of the neighborhood is another of the most important issues to deal with in an elevator, since there will always be a neighbor who supports our opinion or thinks the same way we do. Talking about excessive advertising in mailboxes, that television does not work properly or the need to renew the common areas of the community can be a great reason to start a conversation. However, if in our neighborhood there is no problem, we can always talk about the positive aspects in it ... the conversation can give a lot of play. Without a doubt.
The adorable children
Normally, the smallest members of the community are the ones who are least shy and those who are not prejudiced, which is extremely important in making the ascent or descent in the elevator more pleasant. There are many scenes, for example, to find the daughter of the neighbors on the second floor smiling and looking at us all the time. It is a good time to ask how old you are, what is happening to you or how to get your tongue out. Also, if we give him a candy or knickknack, we will have won the little one. In addition, talking with children not only makes the time pass faster, we can get to have fun or, who knows, engage in conversation with the mother or father who accompanies the child, knowing more about our neighbors.
Health is always a good option
Surely on some occasion we have climbed in the elevator with a companion to whom we noticed a cold. Or we can have it. Well, it can be an option to get a topic of conversation and, even, we can get to learn something. Talking about changes in temperature, about that ailment that disturbs us every night or giving him a handkerchief is one of the most interesting options. If the health problem is more serious and visible, show our cordiality and concern would be the most advisable.
It's Friday! It was about the weekend!
You are right. Above all, in companies. It is the best option to talk to the co-worker with whom we hardly agree or with whom we have little relationship. If in our company nobody works on weekends, we can always talk about how well we are at home on weekends without having to get up early to go to work. If it's Friday, things improve "it's already Friday! The truth is that the week goes by quickly, but for me Fridays are the best day, because we are at the gates of the weekend and the weekly rest." In the event that it is Monday, we can always talk about having to face the first day of work with more encouragement. "Already again Monday, hey, how fast is the weekend ... the good is short." Therefore, in general, talking about the weekend is always an appropriate resource in these situations.
Topics to avoid in an elevator
Although it depends on the type of people we are with, the same issue can be controversial or controversial for some and for others, instead, an interesting topic and what to match. It is true that some conversations can lead to an uncomfortable and boring silence due to prejudices or preferences, as well as stings, which in many cases, even if they are absurd, exist in our society.
What should we avoid in an elevator? Next, we address all the situations we must control:
Soccer stings and cities
Sometimes, if we do not know the likes of our neighbors or coworkers, taking out one of these issues can be tricky. If we do not know some of these preferences and the person has some prejudice or rivalry, the moment can become very uncomfortable. Talking about big football teams, which for some raise passions and for other quarrels, is to risk going from success to failure in just seconds. With the cities, the same. In Spain, commenting on what we think of Madrid or Barcelona and comparing them, if our companion in the elevator does not share our words, can lead to a serious issue.
It's 8 in the morning and we go down in the elevator to go to school or work. The previous night, they put the chapter of our favorite series on television. On the third floor our neighbor climbs, who has not seen it but we do not know it. In advance, we should not take the issue out of the series, since we can make it spolier. Yes. The neighbor maybe is a fan of the series and could not see it and what we are doing is to advance all the content. The same thing would happen with the movie that we have been waiting for so long to see.
Politics ... always on the sidelines
We carry a newspaper in the hand whose headline says. "The corruption of X party, the social scourge" or on the contrary "If elections are held, today I would win X ..." Beware. If we do not know the ideology of the person, expressing this type of comments is playing, directly, the casino. We do not know how our opinions can seat us and, depending on the judgments we make about any politician or party, we can turn the journey into a horrible experience, which can also become an unnecessary rally.
In short, the main topics of conversation that we can take in an elevator, as well as those that, on the contrary, it is preferable to avoid are summarized in respect and empathy.